Want a Happy Marriage? Do this One Thing

Tony Robbins said it best, if you want to have a happy marriage, never stop dating.

Happy marriage and dating are intricately connected. 

Think back to how you showed up when you were first dating.  What was it like for your partner to be with you?

I know life gets more busy, but does the way you show up today resemble the way you did back then?

When you dated you were blissfully happy, satisfied and content with your partner.

Now that there's a mortgage, demanding careers, kids, kids' schedules, it's hard.  And it's doable, I promise.

Imagine for a moment, what it would be like if you started dating again.

You would get up early to put his towel in the dryer so it was nice and warm when he got out.

He would stop on his way home from work and grab your favorite candy bar and the weird type of flower that you happen to adore.

You would offer to do the dishes because he made dinner and shuttled the kids around.

He would say thank you for picking up after the kids, because he would notice the little things you do around the house.

There would constant touching.

Happy marriage

You pass down the hall, touch.

Leave for work. Hopefully lips are touching here.

Arrive home safely.  Big hugs and a smile of gratitude that you get another night together.

See how our brain shows up different in the relationship when we date.

We look for ways to show our partner how much they mean to us.

And they do the same.

This week, in honor of Valentine's Day, I want you to recommit to dating your partner.  It would be awesome if they did this with you, but they don't have to.

The first thing I want you to ask everyday is, how can I show my partner that I love him/her today?

The cool thing about this exercise, is once you do it, you'll realize you can still date when you have kids, jobs, and a mortgage.  And you won't want to stop.